It’s 8:01AM, April 7, 2003. A few days ago I had one of those milestone birthdays.
You know, one of those that ever so gently shoves you into another decade of being
on earth; that reminds you that you’re closer to the end than the beginning; where
everyone says you look pretty good for an old fat guy and then remind you that you
shouldn’t complain too much cause it beats the alternative. Then they tear into a
belly laugh like they were the first one to ever say that. Yeah’¦, I just had one
of those birthdays.
Its funny, the calendar says I’m older, I certainly look older but I don’t feel older.
I feel the way I did when I used to race my bike down the street to my best friend
Jaime Garcia’s house so we could compare our latest Hot Wheels car and play G.I. Joe.
The eyes; I recognize the eyes. In my eyes I still see the young boy that never knew
when he should act like an adult. The truth is I still don’t. I still don’t know when
the child goes away and the mature sensible man appears. But, I do know that if I died
tomorrow I wouldn’t have any regrets. I’ve lived my life with my heart on my sleeve and
loved every minute of it. I know now what I’ve always known; happiness isn’t waiting for
me tomorrow or something that’s lost in the past. It’s something that I am now. It is
something that I’m being now. Happy! There are a lot of things that have changed in my
life; a lot of things that have gone away. But I know now that life is change, it always
has been. That we change isn’t up to us but how we deal with change is. I choose to be
happy. That’s my choice, that’s your choice, nobody else’s.
For this month’s newsletter I wanted to share with you a copy of a Good Housekeeping
article from May 13th 1955. Just a little reminder of how much we’ve all changed in
the last half century. Thank God!
Housekeeping Monthly 13 May 1955
The good wife’s guide
‘¢ Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready,
on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking
about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home
and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favorite dish) is part of the warm
‘¢ Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you’ll be refreshed when he arrives.
Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just
been with a lot of work-weary people.
‘¢ Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a
lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
‘¢ Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house
just before your husband arrives.
‘¢ Gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper etc and then run a dustcloth over the tables.
‘¢ Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him
to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order,
and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering his comfort will provide
you with immense personal satisfaction.
‘¢ Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children’s hands and faces
(if they are small), comb their hair and, if necessary, change their clothes.
They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part. Minimize
all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or
vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet.
‘¢ Be happy to see him.
‘¢ Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.
‘¢ Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment
of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first – remember, his topics of
conversation are more important than yours.
‘¢ Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner,
or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world
of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home and relax.
‘¢ Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and tranquility
where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.
‘¢ Don’t greet him with complaints and problems.
‘¢ Don’t complain if he’s late home for dinner or even if he stays out all night.
Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day.
‘¢ Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him
lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
‘¢ Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing
and pleasant voice.
‘¢ Don’t ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity.
Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will
with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.
‘¢ A good wife always knows her place.