1) Candle Party

At the small college where my husband and I
met, a girl would announce her engagement by holding a "Candle
Party". She would tell only her best friends who would then
set up the party in the lobby of the girls dorm one evening. Posters
would go up announcing the party and all the girls would gather
after curfew. Usually someone would sing or read a poem, then a
lit candle would be passed with the engagement ring tied to it.
Everyone would "Ooooh" and "Aaaah" and try
to guess who it was who had gotten engaged. After the first round,
the candle would be passed a second time and when it came to the
lucky girl she would blow out the candle–letting everyone know
it was her! She would then put the ring on, the guys who were waiting
outside the front doors would go grab the guy, the girls would
grab her, and they would both be thrown in the pool, amid shouts
of congratulations and whoops of laughter!

Richard and I had met the first day of classes
the year before. It was a small college so we had a number of classes
together, and I liked him from the start. Eventually we became
good friends, but we did not start dating until December of my
second year in college.

The following May some friends of mine asked
me to help with a "Candle Party", by making the posters,
and putting together the flowers and candle. Then the guitar player
asked me to hold her music for her while she sang, so I was sitting
right up front. The candle went around once, then twice, but no
one blew it out! Everyone was wispering and asking questions, thinking
something had gone wrong. Suddenly they all became absolutely quiet
as my best friend took the candle from the girl who held it, brought
it over to me, and said, "Josi, blow out the candle." I
replied, "But…it’s…not…my…party!" She said, "Yes
it is. Blow out the candle, Richard wants to marry you!"

I started crying, and everyone else started
screaming and laughing and hugging me! My friend kept saying, "Blow
out the candle! Blow out the candle!" She finally gave up
and blew it out for me! When they threw us in the pool Richard
wanted to see the ring on my hand, and then I realized I had forgotten
to take it off the candle and put it on! Did I get teased about
that for a long time!

People kept saying, "You must have had
some idea that he was going to ask you!" but I honestly did
not! We had talked about marriage and families in general, but
never us in particular. Even though I hoped he might ask me one
day, it never occured to me that he would be so tricky about it!

One of the guys asked Richard how he had the
courage to do the surprise without knowing I would say yes, and
he just replied, "Of course I knew she would say yes!" This
June we will celebrate our 27th anniversary, so you can see he
was right!

Proposal Story By:

Josi Ingram

Port Angeles, AZ


The founder and president of Diamond Cutters International, is one of the worlds top diamond experts, as well as a three-time Guinness Book record holder in jewelry design.
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