In Love and Don’t Know What To Do?

I recently fell in love with a man that has a sick and dying wife. She knows about us and approves because she knows that she will not be around forever. I truely do love him and he loves the both of us. I just recenly moved out of their house. Yes, I was even taking care of her and we became friends. I just have a difficult time living there. I also don’t know if my love for him will last until she pass away. I need help to know that I will be able to wait around that long. Martha is such a sweet person to give her husband to me. She didn’t want me to leave in the first place. She sees the love he has for me and even assked me not to leave. He is also a great man. He has been taking care of her since the first two weeks that they meet. Am I just being overly jealous of her, maybe? Help!

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Baby Daddy issues-is it really over.

I started dating a friend of mine who I knew for a long time, but had not seen for some time. We took things further by moving in with each other. Her and her 4yr old son moved in with my 2 children ages 9 & 11. Things have been going good. However, her baby’s daddy has recently been paroled to a half way house/rehab facility. Now she has been, at the child’s grandmother’s request, been signing him out of the rehab dropping him off at his mothers house and leaving her child to visit. At the end of the visits, which can go on until as late as ten o’ clock, she has to some times drop him off. I understood the first time this was asked of her. Now it seems that this has been an on going thing. My problem is that this last time she was withholding the fact that she had picked him up and dropped him off. She only told me after she came back from dropping him off, and only because I asked why her mood changed. She told me that she was irritated by the whole thing and that she did not want to spoil the mood of things. I think that this was a total disregard of my feelings. She also was very defensive when I was asking what was going on. We have talked before and I have let her know that I disapprove of this type of arrangement. I am all for her son see and visiting his dad. As a long time single father, I often feel that the father’s role in child raising is sometimes minimized, therefore I encourage all fathers to get involved in their children’s lives. I also have to mention that this is the first time that I have ever been in a long time relationship with another single parent. My question is, am I reading too much into this, am I just overreacting by feeling lied to? Is her former relationship really over? Or, do I need to drop this relationship and run.
I need to add that the child’s grandmother is an enabler and will ask others to break their own boundaries to do for her son. Also, the relationships between them dissolved do to violence and drug addiction on his part.
Thank you.
Anthony

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What now?

I met and fell in love with a wonderful woman, after 6 months of living together I knew that she was the person that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, so I asked her to marry me…..she answered yes!
Then after announcing to friends…the most common question was how long have you known each other and she began to listen….after 6 months of being engaged,we were having a disagreement and she basically said fine we are no longer engaged.
Six more months have past, We still live together, sleep in the same bed and are still in love with each other…..but my feelings are hurt, I can’t get past the feelings of rejection and it is affecting our sex life, the way that we relate on a day to day basis and in general……we are making each other as unhappy as we have ever been.
I love this woman, she is my favorite person in the world, I don’t want to lose her, but if I can’t get past this I will end up without her….we have talked and talked, and are still on different pages…..We need help….and advice?
Thanks

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Moving on

After taking ur advice i broke up with him
Just a couple days after i paid my guy a visit. He told me his ex has move out, so i went to have a look…to my surprise she did move out and he wants to stay together, so i told him i need some space….I need to know if i have done the right thing or what.

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Fedup

I have been together with my guy for 3 years, he has been living with is ex when i met him, i was told constantly she is moving out of such times, but never did. i am on the last notch, and fedup.We have a child together and i need some advice on what to do urgently.

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relationship

I’m been secretly talking to my ex-boyfriend who was my best friend in the milatary. We went to war together and got through it together. We remained friends after the break up. My current b.f. found out that we are still in contact and now my relationship is hanging by a string. Please advise.

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why doesn’t he trust me

my boyfriend doesn’t trust me i have never cheated or been unfaithful so y does he not trust me and we have a baby together. The sad part about it is i’m nbow thinking of cheating because he doesn’t trust me. help me

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Woman I like

This person I like and love i have known her for 6 to seven years says that she only wants to be friend is there a love connection or friend connection.She said she picky person around choice of men she chooses she been in a relationship with this guy for 5 yrs now she went to south Texas to see her first husband is she looking for money or she not happy with her life she be married thre times I fear that she marries agin that she will divorce her first husband the second time is she unstable she has a teenage son she has beat him she has a temper and become depressed.She was or is still has the taste for crystal meth she is 44yrs old and she wants to be happy She is christin woman But she needs alot of love and support her parent are all gone she has a half sister and brother her sister is wealthy she is jealous of her her sister is the one that formded Madd so I love this Person I believe God has the answer for her I feel sorry for her.I not expreiced person when going to date woman way behind in that area.I been to bible school for 2 yrs so what I do support her She a work in progress I hope she not going to get married again she divorced him he was wanted to work.

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Just friends

Ashley and I have been friends for about 8 years and ive always loved her. but every time I tried to make a move she got a new boy friend. now I finally got my chane and asked her out. she said i was too much like a brother. is there anything I can do to get her to see me in a different light?

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Fighting

Hi LaTeace,
Lately in my relationship with my boyfriend he has been really testy. He show no patience for anything and when he’s frustrated he talks to me in a way that makes me feel inferior. Like last night we were driving and had his two kids in the back seat.. him dringing my car and we went over a bump that scraped the bottom of my car and I almost sowre but stopped myself.. cause the kids were in the car.. he turned to me and yelled Shut the hell up!.. then leaving I told him I never wanted him to speak to me like that again and he went on to sask me who I thought I was.. and told me if I ever swore in front of ANY child he’d do that same thing… I need help cause I love him but can’t deal with this. I have had too much heart ache in my life and a very abusive childhood both mentally and physically.. I want to save this but don’t know how.. he’s making me resent him by acting this way…

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what to do

My ex gf left me about 3 months ago, we were together for 7 years and engaged for 2, we also have a 5 year old daughter. We had our problems mostly we didnt comunicate very well. Scince she left we talk alot and dont fight we realized that we needed to talk more, so we do. Anyway she tells me that sometimes she feels she made a mistake by leaving and last week she came on to me and we had sex. What am i suppost to make of this I still love her to death and want her dearly. What does all this mean?

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Right response.

Hello I would like to know whether did I do anything wrong or not. My girlfriend, her name is S sent me a mail Friday night saying she wants to see me on weekend. I wrote back saying this weekend will be raining badly for both days. So we can’t go to our little field trip around the city, which we usually do on Sunday. Therefore, why won’t we meet next weekend instead. This mail made S both angry and upset far more than I could imagine. S wrote whether I’m dumping her over rain? (Doesn’t make a sense.) We spend past 2 weekends together and so far we never had any problem. Plus S knows that I don’t like to go out on rainy days. Please let me know if I done something wrong from women’ prospective.

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What to do.

Hi LaTeace,
My ex girlfriend Melissa and I had been together almost a year. she has lead a pretty hard life. Growing up not so priviledged as far as to wear she lived and the money her family had, she was the youngest of three girls. Melissa has known since she was nine that she was not like other girls in the fact that she isn’t not intersted in men. Because of this her family has always treated her like shit. needless to say she ended up falling in with the wrong crowd and making bad decisions and spending 3 years in jail/rehab. Melissa has since turned her life around. she has been clean for 4 years now and is working to get her life back.We recently broke up because I was constantly pushing her to grow up but at the same time disabling her to do so by doing everything for her. So while I understand why she is doing what she’s doing it doesn’t make this any easier. I still love her so much and still want to be with her and try to work through this together but I’m not sure what to do. I know I have to back off and let her do this but I need help with what I can do in the mean time to ease my pain.

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girlfriend problems

Hi there LaTeace, I am Ryan I am have just started first proper relationship. And seemed to have a problem already or is it that I am worrying to much. My girlfriend for last two times she has been with me socially. Seems to day dream and says nothing. I have only been out with her for 3 weeks. And she is younger than me I am 20 and she is 17. But it feels like I am putting a lot of work into this relationship already. When I ask her what is wrong she just replies oh am okay. I try and ask her what her days had been like but her reply’s back to me in bare minimal. The other night we went out she was with her and friend and I. I thought take her friend along with us may make her talk a bit more. But she seemed to the same. When my friends came over she started to talk them and I felt like an outsider and my girlfriend’s friend could see that as well. As the night went on we went to a club. I was on me phone and she was sitting beside me and started to ask me what is wrong. And I told her that did not like how I was always make conversion with her but she would hardly ever speak. She replies with that just me sometimes. So as night went on left her with her friend and I went to hang out with my friends to give her space. I did check on her to see that she was okay few times thought the night. Near the end of the night we danced together but when I tried to get close she would push me away. What should help me please ???

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I need guy advice

Hello,

I need some advice. I just met this guy on my myspace page and he’s attractive, smart, nice. But I don’t know him. I would like to be able to get to know him past what’s already posted on his About Me, Interests’ tables, etc. How do I start off a conversation with him? How do I get him to notice me? On his About Me section he says he’s looking for a lady to date, somebody who is serious and down to earth, and these are things that I believe I am and I’m looking for as well. I’m a little bit intimidated because he has pictures of beautiful girls on his website. As for myself I would say I’m pretty cute, but I’m not drop dead goergous 5’6 beauty, in fact I’m on 5’2, but I do believe I have an awesome personality. How do I get him to see this? Please give me some advice. Thank you.

Rachael

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my boyfriend

my boyfriend and i have been together for over 9 years, will we ever get married,or schould i move own?

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Save my relationship

My boyfriend and i have been together for 4 years. We have a lovely 3 year old boy together, and often talk about marraige. my problem is that we only get intimate about once a month. It is noone’s fault but my own. I am extremely tired all the time. i just do not feel like doing anything but going to sleep when I get home. I know that it is coming between us, he has been extremely patient with me, and now it is getting to the point that it is causing us to fight almost everyday. When we fight about it, it does nothing but make me not want to do it even more. I need some advice on how to spice things up a little, before our relationship is jepordized any further. He is the one and only man that has ever treated me with respect and kindness, and I love him with all of my heart. I need to know how to get over the feeling of being tired so we can become intimate again. Part of me thinks that it is just an easy excuse anymore, please help…

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trust issue

I arranged to meet my boyfriends parents but he text me saying he forgot. About a month later I asked him if it was true and he said the day before he fell out with his parents. I asked him a week later and he admitted that he wrote the text without thinking. He is going away on a stag do this weekend and I said ‘Don’t chat up any girls.’ He said he would be too drunk. I don’t trust him much anymore, what should I do?

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What should I do?

Me and my ex-girlfriend have been broken up for almost a year, we’re still close friends but at times I think that we still have that connection. She has a new boyfriend for six months now but when I was sent to the hospital, friends said she broke down like never before. Some say I should forget about her and be just friends, while others say that she would be happier with me. When I asked her with whom she would be happier with, that guy or me, she answered, I don’t know Just recently I kissed her on the lips in the street and then on the train and all she did was smile as she told me to stop then to go home. What should I do?

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Do you have a definition for

My live-in boyfriend makes a comment here and there that he is an animal and that he’s been one for a long time. We are both in our 40’s, and I have never had a relationship with a man that makes this comment. Any ideas on what this means?

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What is best for me and my best friend

I have feelings for this girl right, but i waited too long and my friend went out with her.And they just broke up after going out for 3 years going through so many trusts n cheatings issues, breaking up and going back together and I’ve been listening to everything she would tell me that happen between themselves. They both did stuff to each other and the trust in the relationship just disappear with each other but still being in a relationship where the love and trust is not how it used to be but because it gotten so deep where the parents know, gotten used and like to see them together and the fact that they really love each other, they decided to stay, always having the same problems ending up the same way and I told her to break up him but she kept going back and now he is moving out of state . Now while she told me all her prob with her boyfriend and starting to talk more and more ending like real late at night we became best friends and my crush that I had for her turned to true feelings and I told her that and she told me that she likes me too but she loved her boyfriend and decided to stay with him and go trough all of the drama. But now they broke up and he is moving out of state. So my question is, Should I try and go out with her or move on and be with someone else? I mean, the feelings I have for her is the strongest I ever felt for anyone but also I feel like she was sorta kinda playing with my head and flirting with me while she was with him but while I flirt back, she is like it’s wrong for me to do that and claims she never flirted. I also feel like if I go out with her, it sorta seems that Im just runner up to the person that she really wants and loves.

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