Why?

Why? It’s a good question. Like why am I here? Why is there famine? Why do people hurt people? Why is there hate? Why do bad things happen to good people? How do you explain the unexplainable? If there is an all-loving compassionate God, why would He let small children die of starvation? Why would He allow thundering earthquakes to bury people alive? Why would there be murder, rape, incest, the homeless? Why?

It doesn’t seem fair to me that some are born to a life of privilege and wealth while others are born into dysfunctional families where stepfathers come and go as often as the sun sets. Children having children and being asked to grow up and be role models before they know who they are and where they are going.

I could go on, I could list a thousand injustices that occur everyday. But what would be the point? I wouldn’t be telling you anything you haven’t heard before and tomorrow when you turn on the evening news you’d probably still hear about the seventeen-year veteran of the police force that was shot to death pulling someone over for a routine traffic ticket. How he left four small children and a wife who is only left repeating over and over… Why? Why? Why?

I don’t begin to pretend to have the answers, but there are a few things I have figured out. A few things that let me live my day instead of just survive it. To wake up every morning with a sense of wonder instead of disillusionment. I hope my insights help you.

1.) Experience is a teacher that we must use to guide us to be the person we strive to be. Deny our past, then we are destined to repeat it till we embrace what lessons it has to offer.

2.) We are constantly in a mode of self-creation. Just because we want to better ourselves and our surroundings doesn’t mean our today and now isn’t any less magnificent.

3.) Realize every moment has a birth and an ending. All things are in a constant state of change. Life is change. Accept that and half the worries you’ll have in your life, you’ll be able to let go.

4.) Love is not a weapon, a tool, deception or a burden. When true love enters your life, it won’t be cloaked in secret or lies. It won’t have rules or guidelines. It will just be. As a matter of fact, true love cannot be lost or wither away. Deceptive love always has an excuse and tries to turn you away from the light and make you into something you are not. True love accepts. False love restricts.

5.) There are no coincidences! Everything happens for a reason. And the reason is the reason you give it. Want to play the part of a victim it will be easy. There will always be those in your life that would love to use you as a doormat. Only you can stop them. Only you can say no.

6.) You can’t make everyone happy so don’t try. Happiness is something within each and every one of us that is a personal decision. What we feel is determined by what we choose to be. Try to save the world and you’ll save no one. But if you take one person at a time that enters your life and be an example of a person that is trying to do their best you’ll be amazed how many smiles show up on the faces of the ones you love.

7.) Give everyone the benefit of the doubt, at least once. You can go through life judging everyone and wondering if they have hidden agendas but you will make yourself sick. Listen to your heart, be loving. There are a lot of kind people just like you are out there who would love a friend and someone to share their life with.

8.) When crisis knocks on your door and it will, instead of asking, “Why me?” just know you’re being given an opportunity to grow, to learn, to remember that darkness visits us all. And I’ll bet if you took just a second to think about it you could come up with at least half a dozen people who have it worse than you. Be grateful, it always could be worse.

In closing, I don’t know why certain things happen but I do know I have the power to interpret them any way I please. (That is the power we were all blessed with whether we use it or not.)

by Fred Cuellar the Diamond Guy®